Hi Nick,
Good idea to try to substitute first. You should find the relay under the right hand dash, if you have a speaker there remove it and there should be two relays, you want the pink one. If you pull it straight up it will slide off a bracket and you will have the base with its leads attached as well.
Please find attached a pdf of the Defender wiring diagrams. Page 43.2 - 43.3 Exterior Lamps - head,side and tail lamps. If you want to jumper the Dim/Dip relay link the UR wires together, without the relay in.
Good luck, just send me a post if you need a hand.
Rob